Recently I've seen a lot of posts about how people around my age should be married with kids, either because other members of their families are married with kids, or their friends have all stated pairing off....
I feel their struggle, but where a lot of posts have been about how it makes them feel hurt or empty or like the aren't "doing life right"
This post isn't about that at all!
My best friends know my feelings about kids...they all come out with "Nessa hates kids" this isn't technically true....I don't hate kids, you can't hate kids they're THE most innocent thing on this planet! If anything, its their parents I can't stand, the way the have no control on their kids, force them into situation they clearly don't want to be in because their parents are being selfish or let them do things my mother would have (and damn right she should have) knocked me every way to Sunday!
I'm a free spirit, a strong girl (still can't call myself a woman, makes me sound old) I know what I want in life. I might not know how to make it happen, but I'm sure I'll have fun along the way.
I'm happy being childless, (and this is no disrespect to any one who has kids, I see you loving those little people fiercely, and I throw massive props your way!) It's not for me, every now and again a little one comes into my life (take the little girl on the coach to Disneyland) and they are so sweet, cute and for some reason (maybe its my blue hair) are so in awe of me I can spend time talking to them, but I have never had this 'urge' to go out and make my own. (Maybe I loved the attention too)
As for being married, I'd kinda need a partner first, and I'm in no rush to fall into a relationship, (I wouldn't push it away, but I certainly wouldn't chase it) being married is a huge life goal for me, I'm not gonna apologise for that, but I'm also not gonna force that to happen.
When I do find that right person for me they best understand that kids aren't on my list....and I probably won't change my mind (I am, after all, like my Father and stubborn as hell)
Keep It Positive
Nessa
xx
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